If You Can't Be With The One You Love....

The Proper “Usage” of the Transitional Man

 

Okay girls, we’ve all had them.  These are the guys that we spend time with in between our major love relationships.  They serve as a bridge from breaking up, making up, or new love.

Frequently they are the guys that we consider to be “friends”, but who have a deeper interest in us.  Oh, come on, don’t lie or try to fool yourself, your lunch time buddy at work who always wants you to meet up with him for a drinkie poo after work and listens to all your cares and concerns about your romantic misadventures is frequently one of these “friends” and may well be lending an ear to get closer to some of YOUR body parts.

Or he’s the guy you met on the internet dating service that looks great on paper, (or online), but just doesn’t have that “chemistry” we need.

In order to prevent copyright infringement, this blog has been condensed to an excerpt as it currently appears in Brigid's book "The Dating Game, Insights Into Affairs of The Heart" releasing in April 2010 and available at Amazon and fine book sellers everywhere. Ask for it by name!

Here Come Those Tears Again

Music Therapy Lesson

 

I have always been one to take solace in lyrics, that is probably why I enjoy writing poetry so much.  I have been a poet since the age of seven, with many poems published over the years, but, unfortunately, I never had any of my poems produced in the form of a song.

 Every day, as a Professional Tarot Reader, I speak to clients who are longing for a loved one to return.  Along with the tarot reading, if they are interested in listening, I try to encourage them to truly examine their feelings for the person in question to be sure that they, indeed, do want the lover in question to return.

 As you may have very well noticed, if you are one of my regular “blog” audience members, I frequently refer to lyrics to express my sentiments and make my points.

In order to prevent copyright infringement, this blog has been condensed to an excerpt as it currently appears in Brigid's book "The Dating Game, Insights Into Affairs of The Heart" releasing in April 2010 and available at Amazon and fine book sellers everywhere. Ask for it by name!

The Latest Articles by Brigid Bishop

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Here are links to Brigid Bishop's Blog Posts gathered all in one place so that you can browse and easily find what you may have read before or what you want to read now!

This will be updated monthly, so just bookmark this page to find the links to highlights and the latest from your favorite Keen Blogger, Brigid Bishop.

Brigid is still taking new clients, so if you like what you read and the insight you gain into life, love and the art of living, feel free to arrange a call with Brigid at your convenience!

 

Stay In Tune and Catch Up With the Latest from Brigid Bishop....

 

Hilights From June of 2007

 

The Newly "BED" Game

 

Tough Love In the Garden of Eden

 

Thyme In a Bottle

 

Why Do People Cheat?

 

What is Your Power Animal?

 

The Bridal Bouquet

(This Article Contains Links to More Wedding Rituals and Myths)

 

Independence, Codependence and Interdependence

 

Premarital Ponderings at 2 a.m.

 

On The Outside Looking In

 

 

 

And From May of 2007:

 

Doing The Relationship Limbo?

 

Be Careful What You Wish For!

 

Relationships From All Angles, The Geometry of Relationships

 

He Chased Me 'Til I Caught Him

 

From April of 2007:

 

Understanding Past Life Connections and Memories

 

Gone With the Wind, A Classic Soulmate Story

 

Cold Mountain, An Adventure In Scrying

 

Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

 

Calculating Soul Mate (Soulmate) Connections With Astrology

 

Soulmates Return

(Poetry)

 

What Is A Spell?  Magick is NOT Magic!

 

Relationship Autopsy

 

Where Did The Devil Come From?

 

The Meaning of the Pentacle

 

Masculine Energy Females, The Dating Game Continues

 

 

From March of 2007:

 

A Soul Mate (Soulmate) Story

 

Understanding Soul Mates (Soulmates) by Brigid Bishop

 

The Dating Game by Brigid Bishop

 

Uncloaking The Tarot

 

There Will Be Wolves

(Poetry)

 

Myths and Truths About Tarot

 

Visit Brigid Bishop

 

 

 

What Makes People Cheat?

Why do People Cheat?

 

Let’s start with women.

There is a misconception out there that men cheat more frequently than females.  In my personal observations I find this to be untrue.  I receive just as many calls from women who are being unfaithful to their husbands and significant others as I do from women who are involved with a man who is either married or seriously involved with another woman.

I do find that when women cheat, they are prone to cheat at a higher percentage due to dissatisfaction with the current primary relationship in hopes that the new lover will provide them with what is missing in that primary relationship.  More women than men seem to venture into cheating situations to find their next serious relationship.

Some women, a minority, cheat for the pure excitement and recreational sex, but these are women with very strong masculine energies.  They look at the extracurricular relationship as just that, and have no intentions of turning it into a real relationship.

Personally, I believe that it is best (and healthiest), if you are looking for a new relationship, to end the primary relationship before becoming involved with a new lover, and this is simply to avoid the complications and obstacles that the cheating itself brings about.

When a man has a relationship with a woman outside of her marriage or primary relationship a lot of factors go into why he is doing it.  Of course, it is possible that he is falling in love and that he wants a relationship with you as much as you do with him, but, again, this is a rarity.

If the “Other Man” is single and fully unattached, he may want more with you, he may be one who wants you to end your primary relationship and launch a full-blown relationship with him.

How can you tell?

In order to prevent copyright infringement, this blog has been condensed to an excerpt as it currently appears in Brigid's book "The Dating Game, Insights Into Affairs of The Heart" releasing in April 2010 and available at Amazon and fine book sellers everywhere. Ask for it by name!

Interdependence, Independence and Codependence

Independence, Codependence and Interdependence

 

Where are you at with your relationship style?

Independence?

In “Deep End”-ness

Co “Deep End”-ness

Inter “Deep End”-ness

 

Picture the realm of relationships as a big swimming pool.  You are in the deep end of the pool. 

If you are in “independent” mode, you are swimming around all by yourself, doing fine, getting out and diving in off the high dive, unaffected by the other swimmers around you.  You are an individual and you are not connecting with others at this time, you are focused on yourself and yourself alone.  You may take an occasional date with another swimmer, but you prefer to swim alone most of the time.

In order to prevent copyright infringement, this blog has been condensed to an excerpt as it currently appears in Brigid's book "The Dating Game, Insights Into Affairs of The Heart" releasing in April 2010 and available at Amazon and fine book sellers everywhere. Ask for it by name!

On The Outside Looking In

On The Outside Looking In

 

 

 

“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart…

            Who looks outside, dreams.  Who looks inside, awakens.

                                                                                                            Carl Jung

 

 

 

Frequently when under stress or in crisis a client will call and all of their questions will be focused on the object of their affections, concerns are projected outside, and the only “inner” focus is on how terrible they feel at present.

Of course, my position here as an Advisor and Relationship Coach on Keen.com is to answer their questions as honestly and accurately as possible, and deliver even the negativity that may be energetically surrounding their situations as compassionately as possible.

The difficulty lies in trying to communicate to the client that they may very well need to remove their focus from the outside and switch it to the inside.

When in an emotional crisis, many are so focused on what may happen next or why their partner is behaving in a negative way, that it is very difficult to clearly deliver that message, and even when delivered kindly and gently, the client may not be able to hear what I am saying, dismissing the guidance that the cards are delivering to return to their focus questions of  “Why did he?” and When will he?”.

I am writing this Keen Blog, (and many previous Keen Blogs), as a gentle reminder or soft guidance to my clientele, that they may perhaps begin to change the focus of their concerns and questions from the outside to the inside.

Let me give you some examples to ponder, and please remember that this is not directed toward any client or clients in particular, it is based on being a Professional Tarot Reader on Keen.com for six years and providing over 20,000 readings in that time frame, so if you see yourself in here, you are one of many I am writing this for.

Example Outward Focus Question:

Why did he break up with me?

Example Inward Focus Questions:

What was it in my behaviors that caused him to behave like this toward me?  Am I needy?  Am I clinging?  Am I too strong for him?

In order to prevent copyright infringement, this blog has been condensed to an excerpt as it currently appears in Brigid's book "The Dating Game, Insights Into Affairs of The Heart" releasing in April 2010 and available at Amazon and fine book sellers everywhere. Ask for it by name!